International relationship expert and media spokesperson on narcissism, relationships, and codependency, Darlene Lancer is a psychotherapist and author of 10 books, including Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies. She has counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally.

Her latest release does a deep dive into the Narcissist Personality Disorder. It is an excellent tool for people who feel trapped between their love and their pain, long for peace but feel exhausted, belittled and confused by a narcissist.

The core problem in relationships with narcissists is that they prioritize power and sacrifice the relationship to get it, while their partners prioritize the relationship and sacrifice themselves to keep it.

In Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, codependency and narcissism expert Darlene Lancer pinpoints the dilemma and solution offering hope to any partner, parent, sibling, friend, or co-worker of a narcissist or abuser. This insightful, researched, and relatable workbook provides a path to end their suffering and improve the relationship. It includes transformative Tools for Improving and Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationship and is packed with exercises, checklists, a step-by-step plan with scripts, and advice to reclaim their power in the relationship. They will be able to:

  • Discover the diagnosis, type, and what motivates a narcissist
  • Know the red flags when dating a narcissist and what to do
  • Identify narcissistic behavior and know how to handle it
  • Understand your role and attraction to a narcissist
  • Regain your autonomy, confidence, and self-worth
  • Rebalance the power in the relationship
  • Learn how to confront abuse effectively
  • Be able to decide whether to stay and prepare to leave

The book examines a narcissistic personality disorder, the different types of narcissists, including narcissistic parents, and the cause and signs of narcissism. Chapter 2 focuses on the underlying features, behaviors, motivations, and traits. You will discover how to identify the type you’re dealing with, and why narcissists act the way they do. Chapter 3 explains narcissistic defenses and all varieties of narcissistic abuse because it’s imperative to spot even in most subtle forms of abuse.

“Darlene Lancer’s book will help you regain your sense of self and restore your right to believe in yourself again. It will help you make sense of the nonsensical experiences you have experienced with someone you believe may have either been a narcissist or possessed high narcissistic traits. Thank you, Darlene, for bringing your understanding, wisdom, and compassion to the field of narcissistic abuse recovery.” ~ Lisa A. Romano Life Coach and Bestselling Author of The Codependency Manifesto

Darlene’s ebooks include:10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People, “I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human” – How to Beat Perfectionism, and Freedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness. They’re available on Amazon, other online booksellers and her website,, where visitors can get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go.” Find her on Soundcloud, Clyp, LinkedIn, Youtube, Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.